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While reading the Swedish news today, as I am wont to do every morning, I come across an article discussing the attitude towards sex crimes among young people.
It appears, according to the article, that the kids of today’s Sweden are increasingly less pitying, or brutal even, in their attitudes towards sex crimes among their peers.
The article begins with the following words (my translation): “On Thursday three 18-year old boys will be charged with forcing a 17-year old girl to group sex. They consider themselves to be completely innocent and don’t understand at all why they’re being charged. The case is not unique.”
Simply put, there is a noted increase in the reporting of, and sentencing for, sex crimes among young people in Sweden today. It has also been noted that the type of sex crimes have changed somewhat, as there are more instances of group sex rapes and other types of forced sexual contacts, as opposed to one-on-one rape and/or sexual molestation.
Case(s) in point, as reported by the interviewees police investigator Mihajlo Mrdjen and his colleague chief commisioner Moni Winsnes, include the case in which four boys simultaneously took advantage of/exploited a teenage girl, while another seven boys “kept guard”; or the case where a 12-year old girl was allegedly forced to perform oral sex on two older boys at a party, while, at the same party, another girl was sexually exploited and taken advantage of. in the case of the 12-year old, the girl didn’t want to participate in the investigation process so the case was, unfortunately, closed.
A fourth case, as reported by Mrdjen and Winsnes, a teenage boy thought it was, according to his own statement in a questioning, completely okay to “share” his girlfriend with his own friends. Under threat of uploading homemade sex films of her to the internet, the boy, according to the girl’s testimony, got her to “agree to” group sex several times. In a fifth case, four men between the ages of 17 and 19 years are held in custody since several weeks, all of them suspects in a rape case against a 17-year old woman, where the classification of the crime is labelled as “grov våldtäkt” (lit. ‘rough rape’, i.e. a rape including the threat, or inclusion of, certain levels of violence above what is considered ‘normal’). All four men deny the crime.
According to Mihajlo Mrdjen and Moni Winsnes, there are patterns and elements that occur repeatedly in this type of cases. One of the fundamental elements is that the boys, with the help of corrosive questions, statements and threats, “nag” their way to different types of sex. When the sex act finally happens, there is always someone there to take pictures of video, which leads to new threats of spreading the images if the girl doesn’t agree to another act, or if she tells a grown-up.
The “blame game” the boys use play into it immensely as well, as the girls feel incredibly ashamed of their behaviors and guilt themselves into thinking that perhaps they asked for it or that it is their fault as they “agreed” to it.
"To protect themselves, the girls even persuade themselves that it’s not a big deal, as if giving someone a blowjob was just something you do to be "nice", almost like doing people a favour", says Moni Winsnes.
The twenty-odd young perpetrators that Winsnes and Mrdjen have questioned in the last few months have several things in common. They don’t consider themselves as having done anything wrong and they think they know of a lot of younger “female friends” who wants to have sex with several people at the same time. That some of the girls still pres charges and report the crimes, they seem to think is simply because the girls “want to get the money” (the payment of damages). The mentality is simply that if a girl hangs out with a group of boys, that means she wants to have sex. Several of the boys questioned also don’t think it counts as rape to force someone to perform oral sex.
The problem is, says Mihajlo Mrdjen, how do you get a young boy to understand that if a tenage girl comes to a party or just wants to hang out, that doesn’t mean that they want to have sex. And how do you get young girls to understand that it is okay to say no?
This rally is a disturbing development, and not only because it’s about (at the risk of sounding preachy) the minds of young people. I mean, these kids are the adults of tomorrow. If this is how they see the world, and women, how are we ever going to get anywhere?
It’s also quite disturbing, and I might be a tad biased here, being a Sweden and all, that it is happening in a country like Sweden. Sweden, a country that has been held up as some sort of predecessor in regards to a lot of issues related to equality between the sexes and human rights and LGBTIQ rights etc. If this development is prevalent in my country, what’s happening with the rest of the world?
Look at India, a country where seems to be a constant flow of headlines along the lines of ‘gang rape this…’ ‘young girl raped that…’ and other assorted violence against women related news. Look at South Africa, a country with the world’s highest rate of sexual violence, where women run the risk of being raped at least once in their life time. Or a whole heap of countries such as Thailand, Jamaica, Zimbabwe or Ecuador, where the idea of “corrective rape” against lesbians is prevalent. Or Australia, where I currently live, where there seems to be headlines about drunk footballers raping and sexually molesting women quite regularly. Or New Zealand, where the case of the so-called “Roast Busters” made headlines recently
I’m just wondering when this will stop. Why is it that one half of the world’s population need to be constantly watching out for the other half, so that they don’t fall prey to some privileged male entitlement bullshit?
This happens, people. All the mothereffin’ time. And yet, nothing seems to be done about it. Apart from more victim-blaming and more bullshit. When will it stop?
Is it supposed to be that being a women is simply to accept the fact that at one point or another, you may get raped? To quote Emily Maguire, who I’ve blogged about previously:
"We all grow up being taught to pre-empt rape attempts, to second-guess the motivations of the men around us, to protect ourselves. Always protect ourselves. We get it. We live it. We do all that shit. And we still get raped. We get raped sober and drunk. We get raped when we’re out and when we’re at home. We get raped wearing short skirts and wearing burqas, wearing school uniforms and wearing pyjamas. We get raped by men we know and by men we don’t. We follow all of the rules in that stupid email forward purporting to be from some sex crimes expert or we follow none of them and it makes no difference."
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